Will My Friends Throw Me a Baby Shower

March 2015 Moms

No friends to throw baby shower

I moved to this area one year ago & still haven't made any friends & I know I won't have anyone to throw me a baby shower. This is the first baby & we don't have any baby items. Has anyone else experienced this?

Re: No friends to throw baby shower

I'm in the same boat, sorry no advice yet
Do a shower at your home town with family. All the gifts from your registery you return get gift cards for and repurchase when you get back home!
Do a shower at your home town with family. All the gifts from your registery you return get gift cards for and repurchase when you get back home!

You should never plan your own shower. If your family wants to do one for you, let them offer. Nobody is supposed to give you a shower. It is given out of the kindness of your heart. IF they offer, instead of returning the items, the hostess(es) can ask the guests to have their gifts shipped to your house.

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I moved to a new town a few years ago and my friend base is still mostly in my hometown. So I will be traveling to my hometown for my baby shower with my mom and MIL hosting the shower with family and friends. They are just making sure they pick a weekend where I can travel there and that works for them. Maybe you could do something like this?

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Someone "back home" will most likely throw you a shower. Do you work? I was at a new job when I was pregnant with my first daughter and my co-workers surprised me with a very lovely shower. You never know where your blessings will come from. Or, in this case, your baby shower.
I disagree- I think it's acceptable to throw your own party or have a meet the baby party. It's 2014- and it's still taboo to have your own shower? Give me a break.

Anyway I just moved to WA and though it's not required for anyone to throw me a shower- I am owed!! LOL 2 baby showers last year and 1 bridal. I'm gonna collect! I'm hoping to go home for mine. Good Luck!
Yes you may be surprised. For my first baby, the ladies of my church threw me a shower, my coworkers threw me a surprise one, and my family did the big one. The church and coworker ones were completely unexpected. If you don't end up having one you can always look at consignment shops, craigslist, or garage sales. Most baby stuff is gently used and in good condition. I didn't do that very much with my first but for this next baby I plan on doing more bargain shopping for some baby carriers, nursing covers, etc.
Seriously, from one post you've deduced I am both money grubbing and selfish.

Astonishing.

I don't let out of date etiquette manuals run my life. Want a baby shower? Throw one. Screw it. And as for being owed LOL I have a sense of humor and trust me I've had my fair share of pregzillas and brides from hell. You better believe those ladies are gonna come through for me! Not because they owe me (seriously, though screw Pinterest) but because they love me, selfish and money grubbing....

Excuse me I need to register at Neimen Marcus, Pottery Barn Kids, and Tiffany's.
I disagree- I think it's acceptable to throw your own party or have a meet the baby party. It's 2014- and it's still taboo to have your own shower? Give me a break.

Anyway I just moved to WA and though it's not required for anyone to throw me a shower- I am owed!! LOL 2 baby showers last year and 1 bridal. I'm gonna collect! I'm hoping to go home for mine. Good Luck!

Yeah, agreed. I'm kind of a control freak, so although I have plenty of friends who want to throw one for me, I'm just not a "surprise!" kind of person. Taboo or not, I've invested many many hours on Pinterest gathering super cute ideas that cannot be wasted! Plus I'm 30, and by now I've been to waaaay too many baby showers not to "collect" on my own!
I disagree- I think it's acceptable to throw your own party or have a meet the baby party. It's 2014- and it's still taboo to have your own shower? Give me a break.

Anyway I just moved to WA and though it's not required for anyone to throw me a shower- I am owed!! LOL 2 baby showers last year and 1 bridal. I'm gonna collect! I'm hoping to go home for mine. Good Luck!

I completely disagree. A shower is something friends/family give to welcome you into motherhood. It's not a necessity for people to throw showers.
Having a baby shouldn't be about the stuff you're going to get anyway. Yes, there are some absolute necessities but babies and parents can do without a lot of the extras. Maybe instead of worrying about who's going to buy you stuff you should worry about building a support system of friends around you before your baby is born.
Seriously, from one post you've deduced I am both money grubbing and selfish. Astonishing. I don't let out of date etiquette manuals run my life. Want a baby shower? Throw one. Screw it. And as for being owed LOL I have a sense of humor and trust me I've had my fair share of pregzillas and brides from hell. You better believe those ladies are gonna come through for me! Not because they owe me (seriously, though screw Pinterest) but because they love me, selfish and money grubbing.... Excuse me I need to register at Neimen Marcus, Pottery Barn Kids, and Tiffany's.
This entire post is tacky. End of story.
OP, this definitely isn't something to broadcast as an expected gift, I'm also surprised at just how rude some of the girls have been (not that I disagree, I guess I'm just less blunt).
Hopefully you've noted to put stuff like this into your "things I'll quietly dwell over" file in your brain and we won't see anymore of this nonsense.

For pete's sake.
I'm in the same boat - my friends live abroad and far away and I don't expect to have a shower. Luckily, we are able to purchase the things we need for our child on our own.

I've also looked at the positive side. My husband are trying a more minimalistic approach to living (don't think hard sparse surfaces and empty rooms). We're just trying to cut down on our belongings and need to buy things. Purchasing quality items and caring for the things we have to make them last. I see kids who have so much crap that they don't know which way to turn, more clothes than they could ever use before they grow out of them.

I love the idea of being able to pick and choose exactly what my kid NEEDS, keeping it good quality, pared down to the essentials. I've read great articles about how keeping it simple really brings a freedom and happiness to your life than "things" can. Check out MinimalistMom.com (I have no affiliation) Here is a couple of great articles:

And I just want to add - I can't wait until my friends and I can all be together and we can celebrate - without all the STUFF! :-)
Sheesh... The air is thick in here. My sister just threw her own baby shower last month. Because she's a control freak she wanted it her way or no way. We were all assigned dutys to help and none of us felt that she was out of line.. Selfish or rude. It was a great time and it was about family and friends and a whole lot of love not about who got her what. If you want a shower is say go home for it it won't be a shower with out your family. I bet your family has already been thinking about what they'll do for you
Sheesh... The air is thick in here. My sister just threw her own baby shower last month. Because she's a control freak she wanted it her way or no way. We were all assigned dutys to help and none of us felt that she was out of line.. Selfish or rude. It was a great time and it was about family and friends and a whole lot of love not about who got her what. If you want a shower is say go home for it it won't be a shower with out your family. I bet your family has already been thinking about what they'll do for you

There are so many things wrong with that situation that I don't even know where to start. Its one thing to be involved in the planning (for my first my friends ran somethings by me because I am a huge introvert and they wanted to make sure I was comfortable). However throwing your own shower is never OK. It always has been and always will be tacky.
Sheesh... The air is thick in here. My sister just threw her own baby shower last month. Because she's a control freak she wanted it her way or no way. We were all assigned dutys to help and none of us felt that she was out of line.. Selfish or rude. It was a great time and it was about family and friends and a whole lot of love not about who got her what. If you want a shower is say go home for it it won't be a shower with out your family. I bet your family has already been thinking about what they'll do for you

At least we now know being rude and tacky runs in your family.

A shower is a gift giving event. Throwing your own gift giving event is beyond rude and tacky. It screams "I deserve for everyone to spend money on me and ooo and aww over my every move. I don't care if it makes you uncomfortable because I DESERVE IT!"

News flash: you don't deserve shit. And, because I have a feeling this will come up, a welcome or meet the baby party is NOT a shower.

For a second there I thought I was back on the knot.
I moved to this area one year ago & still haven't made any friends & I know I won't have anyone to throw me a baby shower. This is the first baby & we don't have any baby items. Has anyone else experienced this?

Though I just re-read this and maybe I'm wrong lol.
I'm in the same boat - my friends live abroad and far away and I don't expect to have a shower. Luckily, we are able to purchase the things we need for our child on our own.

I've also looked at the positive side. My husband are trying a more minimalistic approach to living (don't think hard sparse surfaces and empty rooms). We're just trying to cut down on our belongings and need to buy things. Purchasing quality items and caring for the things we have to make them last. I see kids who have so much crap that they don't know which way to turn, more clothes than they could ever use before they grow out of them.

I love the idea of being able to pick and choose exactly what my kid NEEDS, keeping it good quality, pared down to the essentials. I've read great articles about how keeping it simple really brings a freedom and happiness to your life than "things" can. Check out MinimalistMom.com (I have no affiliation) Here is a couple of great articles:

And I just want to add - I can't wait until my friends and I can all be together and we can celebrate - without all the STUFF! :-)

Love her. We also live lightly, and over the last few years we've gotten rid of a lot of crap. IMO the majority of these baby items are useless. All this baby needs is a hand-me-down crib and some blankets and we're good to go.
She thought the registry was tacky and rude... She asked for used children's books. And paid for the whole thig herself... No part in it was tacky or rude. My job was to make a non alcoholic and alcoholic version of a lemonade.
I'm in the same boat - my friends live abroad and far away and I don't expect to have a shower. Luckily, we are able to purchase the things we need for our child on our own.

I've also looked at the positive side. My husband are trying a more minimalistic approach to living (don't think hard sparse surfaces and empty rooms). We're just trying to cut down on our belongings and need to buy things. Purchasing quality items and caring for the things we have to make them last. I see kids who have so much crap that they don't know which way to turn, more clothes than they could ever use before they grow out of them.

I love the idea of being able to pick and choose exactly what my kid NEEDS, keeping it good quality, pared down to the essentials. I've read great articles about how keeping it simple really brings a freedom and happiness to your life than "things" can. Check out MinimalistMom.com (I have no affiliation) Here is a couple of great articles:

And I just want to add - I can't wait until my friends and I can all be together and we can celebrate - without all the STUFF! :-)

These are great links. Thank you!
So no. No one in my family is tacky or rude ladies. She wanted to have a family seafood fest. Her way. Guys and girls invited.. Handmade DIY crafty activities and such. You alls first reaction to anything you don't understand is negative and.. Hell a rude. Not the way other families celebrate birth and life.. Take a step back and understand not everyone does things your way.